When I began studying under Sri K. Pattabhi Jois, founder of the Ashtanga Vinyasa method, I learned a foundational truth: in traditional yoga, agni — the heat that transforms the body — comes from within. It’s cultivated through rhythmic breathing, unwavering focus, and subtle energetic locks (bandhas) that generate warmth from the inside out.
Even in Mysore, India, where Jois taught, practice traditionally began in the cool, pre-dawn hours. The body’s warmth was earned through movement and breath, not given by the thermostat.
I could see he was seeking a deeper answer — one that made sense beyond the poses. Working at a resort, he witnessed countless western guests who, despite having material abundance, often seemed unhappy, stressed, or in conflict. It was clear he wanted to understand more.
I shared with him that many people believe their “home” is their house or their car — something external. But the only true home we ever have is our body.
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- A house can be lost and replaced.
- A car can be taken and bought again.
- But our body? It’s the only true home we are given.
Mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved. – Erich Fromm
I am currently enjoying the gift of living in a three-generation household, alongside my husband Tom, my daughter Kylie, and my mom. It brings about many challenges, but there is also something so special about it.
My mother gets to witness me being a mother, and my daughter gets to witness me being a daughter.
This is a sacred chain in which we all learn from one another on a daily basis how to love more deeply, give more selflessly, and honor our needs as a collective and as individuals.
It has shined a whole new light on what it means to give a “Mother’s Love”. It is no different than a daughter’s love, or a teacher’s love… But it is perhaps the purest. It is unconditional, un-programmed, and unpretentious… And it is the ultimate yoga practice.
May your Mother’s Day be restful, insightful, and full of Love.
Here’s to all the moms!
If you are in San Diego, please join me for my annual Momaste Meditation Hike with Beaming Del Mar!
